what is relationship counselling ?
what’s the aim?
……to help individuals and couples improve their relationships.
who’s it for?
we don't call our service "marriage guidance" because we provide help with all relationships:
……couples who are married, living together or in a relationship - not just for couples in a marriage
……single people who have had difficulties in previous relationships
……couples at the beginning of their relationships
……couples at the end of their relationships, separating or divorcing
……any age, gender, culture, religious belief, straight or gay
when to come?
Clients do not have to be in crisis to ask for help and do not have to be currently in a relationship. Generally the earlier you ask for help, the easier it is to resolve.
how does it work?
During counselling, individuals or couples are helped to think through an issue or work through a problem. The counsellor is trained to help people understand themselves better, relate better to others, work things out for themselves and make decisions about what to do next. The counsellor will help you talk openly and honestly. The counsellor will not give you advice.
why do people come for counselling?
Our very closest relationships are based on intimacy and trust. When it stops working we are affected deeply and our health and happiness suffer. Our sense of identity and self-worth often rests on the strength of our relationships and we can despair when our prime relationship fails. Clients often seek help when:
- there has been a betrayal of trust, an affair, debt or secret
- disappointment leads to anger or hostility
- lack of negotiation shatters expectations
- birth of a child leaves a partner feeling abandoned
- physical or mental illness of one partner alters the couple dynamics
- talking causes confusion or unbearable anger
- separation or divorce seem like the only option
- desire has gone or sex is no fun
- arguments and bickering go on and on...
Communicating and staying connected during difficult times may feel impossible. When two people no longer relate, their relationship is in crisis and often a betrayal of some type follows. Skills are available to help you to listen and be heard, particularly when the unbearable needs to be heard and acknowledged.